Pyaar mein padne ka process shayad universal hai, lekin ab tak humare pyaar ke mechanisms aur iske asar par samajh bahut seemit thi.
Ab ‘love science’ ka ek naya kshetra is powerful emotion ke psychological aur physiological asar ko samajhne ki koshish kar raha hai.
Ek recent study, jo pichle mahine Behavioural Sciences journal mein publish hui, ne paaya ki dimaag pyaar mein hone par alag tarike se react karta hai, aur pyaar kiya hua vyakti unka attention ka centre ban jata hai.
University of Canberra aur University of South Australia ke researchers ne 1,556 young adults se survey kiya jo ‘in love’ hone ka mahasoos karte the, unki emotional reaction, unke behavior aur unki beloved par unka focus samjha.
Unhone conclude kiya ki romantic love mein ek mechanism hota hai jise behavioural activation system (BAS) kehte hain, jo kisi vyakti ko unki beloved ko sab kuch aur se upar rakhne par majboor karta hai.
Pyaar mein hone ke sabse achhe documented asar mein se ek hai ki yeh chronic inflammation ko kam kar sakta hai – aur iske natije mein serious illnesses jaise diabetes, heart disease aur kuch cancers ka risk bhi kam hota hai.”
“Lead researcher aur anthropologist Adam Bode ne explain kiya ki yeh BAS se sambandh ‘yeh dikhata hai ki pyaar strong emotions ke baare mein hai, lekin aakhir mein evolutionary goal behavior hai — humein apne mates ki talash karne, unka khayal rakhne aur bahut saari sex karne ke liye majboor karna.’
Yeh behavior change dimaag ke chemical alterations se govern hota hai, researcher Dr. Phil Kavanagh ka kehna hai: ‘Humein pata hai ki oxytocin [jise ‘love hormone’ kehte hain] romantic love mein kya role play karta hai, jab hum apne loved ones ke saath interact karte hain, tab yeh humare nervous system aur bloodstream mein circulate hota hai.’
‘Jo loved ones hain, unki khas ahmiyat isliye hai kyunki oxytocin dopamine [jise ‘feel-good hormone’ kehte hain] ke saath milta hai, jo humara dimaag romantic love ke dauraan release karta hai.’
Yeh dimaag ke pathways ko activate karta hai jo positive feelings se judi hoti hain, jo humein us behavior ko continue karne par majboor karti hain.
Lekin sirf BAS system hi activate nahi hota: pyaar ek massive physiological reaction ko poore sharir mein set off karta hai.
Aap soch sakte hain ki ek bistar share karne se zyada disturbed sleep hoti hai, lekin aapke partner ke saath sone se rapid eye movement (REM) sleep badh jaati hai — jo emotions, memories aur creative problem-solving ko regulate karne ke liye zaroori hai.
2020 mein Christian-Albrechts University of Kiel, Germany ki ek study ne young couples ke brains ko char raaton tak scan kiya, jab ve saath sote the aur alag. Yeh dikhata hai ki jab bistar share karne se limb movement ki wajah se disturbance hoti hai, tab bhi yeh better-quality sleep deti hai.
‘Jab aap apne partner ke saath sote hain, to aapka sharir thoda unruly hota hai, lekin aapka dimaag nahi, aur yeh aapke mental health, memory aur problem-solving mein ek extra boost de sakta hai,’ lead researcher Henning Johannes Drews ne kaha.
Ek aur recent discovery yeh hai ki pyaar ka humare gut microbiome par kya asar padta hai. Yeh diverse community of gut bugs digestion se lekar brain function tak sab kuch affect karti hai.
2019 mein University of British Columbia ki research ne dikhaya ki close relationships mein log, jinke beech sustained physical contact hota hai, unke gut microbes sabse diverse hote hain. Yeh Scientific Reports mein publish hui, aur yeh purani studies par build karti hai jo dikhati hain ki sirf ek kiss karne se couples ke beech takreeban 80 million bacteria transfer ho sakte hain.
Pyaar mein hone ka ek sabse achha documented asar yeh hai ki yeh chronic inflammation ko kam kar sakta hai — aur iske natije mein serious illnesses jaise diabetes, heart disease aur kuch cancers ka risk bhi kam hota hai.
Pichle saal University of North Carolina ki ek study ne paaya ki partner ke saath samay bitane se C-reactive protein (CRP) ka level kam hota hai, jo chronic inflammation ka ek key indicator hai.
Scientists ne ek mahine tak relationships mein 100 logon ke CRP levels ko test kiya, aur unhone apne lovers ke saath samay bitane ke baare mein questionnaires bhare.
Journal Brain, Behaviour, and Immunity mein likhte hue, researchers ne report kiya ki jitna zyada samay participants ne apne partner ke saath bitaya, agle din unke CRP levels utne hi kam the.
Wahin, 2019 ki ek study ne yeh dikhaya ki loved one ki presence hone se bhi pain kam ho sakta hai, chahe aap touch karein ya baat karein na.
Austria ki University of Health Sciences ke researchers ne 48 couples ko recruit kiya aur unki pain resilience ko test kiya jab ve akeli the, aur jab unka loved one room mein tha. Unhone paaya ki dono mard aur auratein apne romantic partner ke saath hone par zyada resilient dikhte hain.
‘Bar-bar, baat karna aur touch karna pain ko kam karne dikhaya gaya hai, lekin hamari research dikhati hai ki sirf romantic partner ki passive presence bhi isse kam kar sakti hai,’ study author Stefan Duschek, health psychology ke professor ne kaha.”
“Pyaar ke kai physiological effects ka ek foundation oxytocin ka release hai (jo pyaar mein padte waqt humein jo euphoria mehsoos hota hai uska bhi zimmedar hai).
Oxytocin ko achhe se jaana jaata hai kyunki yeh humein relax karta hai, humare partner ke saath bonding mein madad karta hai aur stress ko kam karta hai.
Aur yeh stress-related gut disorders mein bhi madad kar sakta hai. U.S. ke Penn State College of Medicine ki ek study, jo Journal of Physiology mein publish hui, ne dikhaya ki oxytocin stress se judi digestive symptoms — jaise constipation, bloating aur nausea — ko kam kar sakta hai, kyunki yeh stomach mein muscle contractions ko badhata hai.
Alag se, researchers ne paaya hai ki yeh love hormone (touching aur cuddling se stimulate hota hai) hair growth ko encourage karta hai. 2023 ki ek study, jo Scientific Reports mein publish hui, existing research par build karti hai jo dikhati hai ki oxytocin dermal papilla cells ke growth ko promote karta hai, jo hair growth mein ek important role play karte hain.
Pyaar dopamine ka surge bhi promote karta hai, jo memory, movement aur mood jaise kai bodily functions ko influence karta hai. January mein, U.S. ke neuroscientists ki ek study ne dikhaya ki jab hum apne lover ke saath hone ki anticipation karte hain, to dopamine levels spike hote hain.
Agar hum kisi partner se dinner ke liye milne wale hain, for example, to dopamine hours pehle spike karega, humein journey karne ke liye motivate karega. (Agar hum sirf kisi work acquaintance se milne wale hain, to yeh dopamine surge nahi hota, isliye hum ghar par rehne ka chunav kar sakte hain.)
“Neuroscientists ne kaha ki pyaar ke liye dopamine surge hamare health ke liye beneficial hai, kyunki yeh humein un bonds ko maintain karne ke liye drive karta hai. Yeh shayad yeh bhi samjhata hai ki kuch relationships se get over karna itna mushkil kyun hota hai.
Break-up ke baad, yeh reaction aam tor par kam ho jaata hai, isliye agar aap phir se milte hain to surge kam hota hai. Theory yeh hai ki yeh nature ka tareeka hai humein aage badhne dene ka. Lekin kuch log dusre logon ki tarah jaldi move on nahi karte, aur study authors ka sochna hai ki yeh shayad faulty dopamine response ki wajah se ho raha hai.
‘Yeh sambhav hai ki in logon ke liye, unka partner-associated dopamine signal loss ke baad adapt nahi ho raha hai, jo unke loss ya break-up ko process karne mein rukawat bana raha hai,’ lead researcher Zoe Donaldson ne kaha. ‘Ek bada goal yeh hai ki un biological changes ko identify kiya ja sake jo logon ko life se re-engage karne mein madad karte hain — jo tailored therapies ya medication tak le ja sakta hai.’
Meanwhile, unrequited love addiction-type behaviour ko bhi janam de sakta hai, Dr. Emilia Vuorisalmi, Finland ki ek medical doctor ka kehna hai: ‘Hamare sharir ka har cell loved one ke saath hona chahta hai. Agar kisi wajah se yeh nahi ho pata, to hamare dopamine levels gir jaate hain, aur stress hormones cortisol aur norepinephrine release hote hain taaki unhe wapas pa sakein.
‘Yeh evolution ka tareeka hai ensure karne ka ki hamare genes agle generation tak pahunche. Agar hum apne goal mein safal nahi hote, to hum self-medicating karke better feel karne ki koshish karte hain. Shayad hum marathon ki training shuru kar dete hain ya kisi inappropriate relationship, alcohol ya drugs ki taraf jate hain taaki dard ko soothe kar sakein, kyunki yeh behaviours shayad temporarily dopamine levels ko badhate hain,’ unhone kaha.
Swansea University ki neuroscientist aur psychologist Hana Burianova ne add kiya: ‘Unrequited love cortisol aur adrenaline ko badha sakta hai, jo stress se judi problems, jaise inflammation, anxiety aur insomnia ka kaaran ban sakta hai.
‘Uncertainty bhi stress create karta hai. Isliye online dating platforms ka use karna aur har waqt alag dates rakhna bhi waise hi stressful responses invoke kar sakta hai aur aapki health ke liye harmful ho sakta hai — khaas kar jab disappointment se juda ho. In tarah ke stressors se break lena ek achha idea hoga.’”